3 essential do’s and don’ts in life
There are 3 do’s and don’ts that are essential in life
Here they are
a) Go after what you need first, then after what you want:
In life it is extremely important that you go after on what you need first. In other words we must focus the bare essentials in life. To some this may be owning a house, to others it may be getting their dream job. Whatever it is focus on what you need first before going after what you want.
In life we may want many things. Some of us want a flashy car to impress our neighbors, others may want the biggest size TV, while still others may want to take a vacation in the Bahamas.
However it is necessary to postpone what you want, till you get what you need first. What this boils down to is that one must address one’s needs before indulging in anything else. Splurge only after you are satisfied that you are financially secure.
b) In the short term – Do what you must, before doing what you want:
In our daily lives we usually have a million and one things to do. All too often we tend to do what we like and put off what is important because it is slightly distasteful. We procrastinate on doing what we really must because we dislike it. We keep doing things that we like, till the task that we kept putting off becomes all too urgent and critical.
In my opinion we must first do things that we absolutely must, whether we like it or not before doing what we like. This is very important. By doing what we dislike, yet we must, we get the task over with. That is one less thing to worry about. Once we have this important task out of the way we can spend as much time on things that we like to do
c) In the long term –Do what you like, not what you must:
In the long term however we must do things that we like and not force ourselves doing that we think that we must do. We should center our lives on things we have a passion for. We should not spend our lives working in jobs that we don’t have any interest in, but we think that we must to provide for the family. Usually there will be avenues to get the job that you like provided, you look for it. In a famous study, one of the chief regrets of people in their death bed was that “they felt that they had wasted their lives living to other people’s expectations rather that doing what they really wanted”.
So in the long term go after what you desire and what you are passionate about.
These three do’s and don’ts are very important in our day to day lives