To move ahead in life there are several ‘dos’ that we need to follow. In this post I would like to high light 3 essential don’ts that we need to adhere to in life. Here they are
Don’t postpone distastefulness: In other words don’t procrastinate something because you dislike the particular task. Very often in life we have a problem starting a task which we hate. We try to avoid doing it. Eventually the task becomes inevitable or we run into a crisis situation which we could have avoided if we got on to performing the task. Personally I think putting off something that is distasteful only delays the event. Moreover you will have those nagging thoughts of the hateful task popping up every now and then in your mind. In my opinion the first thing that you should do is to get this task out of the way. We should try to finish off should not just the urgent tasks but also those that you truly hate doing. Once this is out of your way you can focus on other more important tasks
Don’t spoil a perfect present with imaginary fears: This is also something that we tend to do often. We worry about something that may happen in the future and completely spoil a perfect present. If you have no control on something that is yet to happen then I would suggest that you push the event to the bottom of the stack of things to keep in your mind. For all you know the fears may be unfounded and things may turn out well after all. You really cannot get back all those hours you lost sweating a probability. Quit worrying and enjoy the present.
Don’t assume outcomes without trying: This is another problem I see with several people. People assume that the worst will happen if they do something and simply avoid doing it. I have known people who conclude that they will not get any job based on their experience and don’t even bother to apply. How do you know if you will or will not be called for the interview without even trying? Maybe you are looking for a raise. Go ahead and ask your boss. Trusting ‘karma’ will take you nowhere. Certainly you will feel releived that you tried.
Maybe you are having having romantic ideas about the ‘sweet little thing’ in your school or the ‘smart’ guy in your office. Don’t make assumptions about the other person’s thoughts. It makes better sense to voice your thoughts rather than make assumptions. This is all too common is us humans. We reach conclusions based on assumptions instead of facts. Personally, it is better to have tried and failed than never to have tried at all. So don’t assume ask, try, do.
Conclusion: There are possibly umpteen other important don’ts in life. I would rate the ones above, pretty high on that list of the other dont’s.In each of 3 situations they help you in avoiding frittering away mental energy due – i) to nagging thoughts when you procrastinate b) to unnecessary worry c) to wishful thinking or in unsubstantiated despondency.