Confront, analyze and think through your problems. Notice, I did not say ‘solve your problems” as real life problems neither have a right nor an easy answer.
When we come to this world, our benevolent Creator in all his omniscience also sends us with several post-dated baggages of problems to each one of us. As we progress through life these problems crop up every now and then.
Each and every one of us is given a unique set of problems. The problems are real and they are here. Some people flee from life’s problems. Others pretend they are not there. Some make a beeline to the latest and greatest Godman in search of a quick fix to their problems. Others try to drown their miseries in drink or other intoxicating substances. None of these really work.
The first thing we have to do is confront our problems head-on. There is no running away. Look at them squarely. Accept them as your problems and make a mental resolution to deal with it. This in itself is a big step.
The next thing you need to do is analyze your problem. Understand why the problem troubles you. Why are you getting hurt by it? What is causing you the pain? Is it because it affects your personal life, or creates a bad atmosphere at work? Look at the problem from all sides.
Think through ….
Once you have analyzed your problem try to think through possible solutions. For e.g. your work atmosphere may be vitiated by your intolerant and intransigent boss. Think through what your various options. Keep your mind open. In some cases the problem may be yourself and not your boss. If that is the case make up your mind to change. Alternatively if there is really a problem with your boss you could investigate avenues for a change in departments. You could apply for openings outside. Sometimes you could lack a skill for which you could get trained for. In any case think through all possibilities.
Sometimes your problem could be because of a misunderstanding with your relative. Think through whether your or your relative is the cause of the bad blood. It could be the simple case of a mis-communication. Work towards a possible solution. There is really no point carrying a grudge. It is simply not good “mental energy” management.
It really does help to take stock of your problems and face them squarely in the eye. Problems have the habit of nagging us and sapping our energy.
Rather than ignoring your issues or sweeping them under the carpet, confront, analyze and work through your problems.
The above method may not resolve your problems immediately but once you have faced, analyzed and worked through your problems it is highly likely that your sub-conscious mind may throw up some real good solutions.