The above statement must sound nothing short of blasphemous. How can one feel good when one is feeling down in the dumps? It simply does not seem to make sense. But what is suggested in this article is that when we feel miserable we should quietly tell ourselves “I am feeling miserable but I am feeling good”. By doing this we will be going against the grain of thousands of years of evolution of mankind where we are conditioned and programmed to feel lousy when we are miserable.
We may be miserable because our boss did not give us that raise we were expecting, because a subordinate is promoted over us or one of your colleagues is extremely rude to you that day. It is natural to feel miserable, angry and lousy when things happen in way that is different to our liking. The natural tendency when this happens is that we would like to sulk and work ourselves into total misery. We will soon start feeling the blues. What is required in this situation is that we should tell ourselves “it feels good to be miserable”. This article is certainly not advocating any masochistic tendencies in you rather it tries to make you look into and understand your feelings. While telling this to ourselves, that it feels good to be miserable, will definitely not reduce the misery, at the very least if we consciously tell this to ourselves we will begin to accept the feeling of misery rather than trying to fight it. When we accept the feeling of misery, which may certainly not be very pleasant, we begin to observe our own feelings that the incident(s) provoked in us. As we become aware of the thought process that has kicked in because of the unsavory incidents of the day we will begin to understand our own selves better. If we keep at it we can try to get to the root of the problem and reflect whether it makes any sense to subject ourselves to the misery rather than just shaking it off.
So while the affirmation to ourselves “that it feels good to be miserable” will not drive away the blues it will definitely make you accept your own feeling towards things besides also giving you a deeper understanding of your beliefs and values that are dear to you.