My thoughts …
We just see what our self-adorned blinkers allows us to see.
When the mind controls thoughts we are aware of the result of anger,desire, hatred etc.Being aware of the process dissipates these emotions.
Our value system is the axis around which our character revolves.
Why is that man prefers to dwell on failures, disappointments & frustrations as opposed to cherishing little victories, joys & blessings.
Sprinkle your plans with common sense and practicality.
Deference is fine. Servility is not.