Life is not fair. How often does this thought crop up in our minds? We always feel that we are at the receiving end of the stick as opposed to our friends or colleagues who seem to have a great time. We can easily come up with umpteen reasons as to why we are worse off than our neighbor.
Why does this happen? Actually it all depends on our own perception of reality. We develop a distorted view of the world and our place in the scheme of things. For some reason our minds prefer to focus on the negatives of our life and the positives of others. For some unknown reason we prefer to feel miserable and lousy. To me it appears almost that by nature man tends to gravitate towards negativity in life. It is almost as if the mind would like to trick itself into believing that the world is loaded against it.
Our understanding of our own state is distorted and our perception of neighbor’s supposed cheer in life is completely incorrect. We tend to dwell on where things are wrong with us. Also we have only a partial view of our neighbor who seems to have it better than us.
Nothing can be farther from the truth. For one our neighbor has their own share of problems in the world to handle. Moreover our own life is not as bad as it seems to be. It is quite likely that there are certain areas where fate could have treated us better, but clearly there will be many things for which we need to be grateful for.
It is possible that at certain points in life, fate could have dealt us a bad hand. But what is important is how we respond to the situation. Rather than fretting and fuming about the unfairness of fate we could choose to take positive action to offset the effect of our fate. Moreover we should focus on the many blessings we have in life. For one we could be free of any debilitating disease or we could have a stable income and family etc.
If we only look around ourselves we will find many reasons to be grateful. We need to re-focus our mind to dwell on our little blessings rather than our faults.
We have to understand that our perception of reality and reality as it is are completely different. We have to free ourselves from the bleak picture that our mind creates for us.