To most of us happiness depends on us getting that raise, a promotion, acquiring some material things or achieving recognition and respect etc. In all these cases the center of our happiness is our own petty self. Our happiness or lack of it is dependent on our own self-centered view of the world.
We expect some external event to happen which results in our happiness. We hold our happiness hostage to the occurrence the external event. We are in a way helpless as we are dependent on events happening to make us happy.
Why can’t we shift the center of our happiness from being centered on oneself to being centered on others?
This requires a radical shift in our mind set.
Can we change our world view such that we strive to make other happy in anyway? Can we make others happy by alleviating their suffering of others? Can we derive our own satisfaction and consequent happiness from this effort?
We can help others monetarily, mentally or morally.
That is the key. Why do we have to hold our happiness slave to some external event because our joy is centered on our self? Why cannot we move this center to the world around us and derive joy by making others happy.
If we are able to look beyond our own self-centered view of the world, to a more encompassing view of society at large, then the happiness that we gain by making others happy will be more enduring and more long lasting. The other important fact is that we are in control of our actions in making others happy. We don’t have to feel helpless in waiting for some things to happen in our lives. We can proactively work towards help others and centering our happiness in our service for others.